Hi folks, I'm starting a new series in July about pitfalls in writing. This will be short but heartfelt. I've fallen into a number of pits in my writing journey, and I hope that some of my falls will help you find good success with fewer skinned knees.
My first pitfall is called "Too Eager." Oh, I do look longingly at folks who seem to jump out of the nest and soar into the sky instead of slamming their way down a bunch of branches and landing in a heap on the forest floor. Over eagerness is a true pitfall. Different kinds of birds fly at different times. Stop comparing yourself to others. (I mean it. STOP!) You must wait until your writing matures before you get to move forward. Your worth is not part of your work, so if you have those two things connected, please disconnect them now. Appearing desperate is not the way to get published. Confidence is something that is born in you. It comes with your experience. Let it grow.
It can be a blow to the ego to write your first fab book and then have all the gatekeepers say no. Then you write another book and they say no. Around book 5 or 6 they start saying you are better than 99% of what they see and still they say no. Dang, gatekeepers. You have some choices. Don't take things too personally. Publishing is a competitive business and you are doing an excellent job by getting your books into honest discussions. Write your next book. Open up to new ideas. Innovate. Spread good karma. Celebrate your work. Enjoy it and keep trying. I have never seen a dedicated creative person fail. Not one time.
I hope this little discussion helps keep you on your true course. Keep creating and I will see you next with for another friendly chat about pitfalls and what you should do.